How to Plan Your Wedding, and Not Go Crazy

by Alixandra Gould in


Wedding Planning Tips

Planning a wedding is a lot of work. 

Let's call it what it is; a part time job. It can be the most fun, amazing part-time job you've ever had, but it can also be a huge challenge. 

I'm a wedding photographer, not a planner. But, I've had a unique perspective on LOTS of weddings. 

It breaks my heart to see brides (and grooms) really struggle in the months leading up to their big day. Instead of basking in all the excitement and love, they're stressing about the scheduling details, family dynamics, seating chart. . .you name it. 

It doesn't have to be this way.

Here are some tips on how to plan your wedding, without losing your mind in the process. 

ROM wedding

1. Hire a (good) planner

If it's within the budget, this can be the best investment you make, hands down. They will take care of all the nitty gritty details so you don't have to. An experienced planner has done this dozens if not hundreds of times, and they know how to plan your day to not only be beautiful from an aesthetic perspective, but also run smoothly. 

2. Book your key vendors early

When it comes to photographers, florists, caterers, DJs/bands, and hair and make up, get that done shortly after you book your venue. These vendors book up fast, and there's no sense scrambling to find them when you don't have to. Once they're booked, you can sit back and relax knowing you're in good hands.

3. Manage family and friends expectations

Family wedding photo

This is a BIG one. We all want our family and friends to feel like they have a role in the big day. But let's face it, someone is bound to get their nose a bit out of joint. You have to accept this. It's impossible to cater to everyone's wishes equally, and have the kind of day that is right for you and your partner. You can't please everyone, and that's okay. Chances are once the day is said and done, they won't even remember what they were upset about in the first place. 

4. Don't worry about what you can't control 

What if it rains? What if the officiant is late? What is Uncle Bob says something inappropriate? Concerns like these are all possibilities, but you have enough stuff to concern yourself with. And even if these things do happen, the show will go on. 

Engagement photos

5. Focus on what really matters

At it's core, a wedding day is about two people making a profound and beautiful commitment to one another. Do not let the table numbers, appetizer choices, and photo permits distract you from that fact. If you loose the sanctity in all the details, you fail to see the forest through the trees, so to speak.

You are getting married! Yes, YOU! How lovely and wonderful and exciting. Enjoy the f*** out of it.